Women have forever associated the word “bossy” to mean …you know, other not so nice b-word. Well I say, not so.
Despite the negativity that’s often surrounded with the term, it’s time that women and men around the globe should start embracing what it means to be a boss! :) For ages men have been expected to be nothing less. While men are esteemed and commended for their ability to make decisions, to be direct, and to be up front about what they want, women are often criticized and labeled for possessing the strong leadership skills that many men have. Well, it’s definitely time for that to change! :)
While some see bossy as being abrasive or domineering, I believe that being bossy means knowing what you want and knowing how to vocalize it. Who says women shouldn’t be vocal about WHAT THEY WANT and know how to be FABULOUS enough to get it? Women often shy away from speaking up, giving their opinions, being assertive, taking control or any other form of leadership to avoid the stigma of being labeled “BOSSY;” we should however, be empowered to speak our minds, with class, respect, intellect, poise, and wisdom and expect nothing less than greatness without the stigma of being known as controlling or overpowering. There is so much virtue in taking the reins while Christ leads your life. Just look below at the fabulous Proverbs 31 lady. Now she WAS A BOSS.
10 Who[b] can find a virtuous[c] wife?
For her worth is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband safely trusts her;
So he will have no lack of gain.
12 She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life.
13 She seeks wool and flax,
And willingly works with her hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
She brings her food from afar.
15 She also rises while it is yet night,
And provides food for her household,
And a portion for her maidservants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
From her profits she plants a vineyard.
17 She girds herself with strength,
And strengthens her arms.
18 She perceives that her merchandise is good,
And her lamp does not go out by night.
19 She stretches out her hands to the distaff,
And her hand holds the spindle.
20 She extends her hand to the poor,
Yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of snow for her household,
For all her household is clothed with scarlet.
22 She makes tapestry for herself;
Her clothing is fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates,
When he sits among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
And supplies sashes for the merchants.
25 Strength and honor are her clothing;
She shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She opens her mouth with wisdom,
And on her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She watches over the ways of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children rise up and call her blessed;
Her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many daughters have done well,
But you excel them all.”
30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands,
And let her own works praise her in the gates.
For far too long, women have hidden under the garment of fear, compromising, giving in, settling for less than what they really want and deserve, all because they are too afraid of what it looks like to be BOLD, to be heard, and to lead their lives fearlessly. I mean really, what’s wrong with being up front about what you want in life, or even people? Now don’t get me wrong, everyone knows there’s a fine line between tactful and distasteful; I’m not encouraging women to cross that line, so don’t read this post and feel empowered to go home and tell your man off or go psycho on your boss or friends. I’m also not saying that women should shove out directions for other people’s lives. What I am saying is that it’s okay to be assertive and to state your wants and expectations all while listening to the same from others, it’s okay to be strong, vibrant, in control, a little sassy (when its necessary), and confident; it doesn’t make you less of a women, it doesn’t take away from your femininity, and it won’t make horns grow out of your head. What it WILL do is set you free, lessen your burden, and release the inner boss in you that was created for greatness!
So the next time you’re confronted with the term “bossy,” keep calm and pat yourself on the back. After all, you are A BOSS :)