I am so excited to be joining in on Mandy Hale’s 30 day blogging challenge! If you’re not familiar with her, she is the author of the book “The Single Woman.” “The Single Woman” is an awesome book that encourages single women to celebrate themselves as opposed to despising their season of singleness. She speaks from a Christian woman’s standpoint reminding us that there is a time for everything (Ecclesiastes 3); which is an essential reminder as we walk this journey, anxious to be swept off our feet by Prince Charming! Mandy started a 30 day blogging challenge to get her creative blogging juices flowing and invited all bloggers to join the challenge. I will be answering questions about life as a single, my perspective on various topics, my future mate, and so much more! As always, I will keep it real! I would love to hear from you all as well, so join the dialogue as we go through the next 30 days together.
Also, you can visit Mandy Hale’s page at: www.thesinglewoman.net
Day 1: Your response to everyone’s favorite question: “And why are YOU still single?”
Ladies, I bet we’re going to hear this question a lot now that it’s holiday season! Lol! Our relatives will be hounding and cornering us about our status as singles and why we choose singleness while the rest of the world is getting engaged, getting married, going on dates with almost anything that walks; however, we choose to focus on ourselves and celebrate the season we’re in. In Mandy Hale’s book there’s a chapter entitled “Happily Single” and the tagline or quote for that chapter is as follows: “Not everything in life has to be about finding The One. Sometimes a girl just wants to have fun.” I love this! It’s a great reminder to just have fun, enjoy your girlfriends and the special moments with family. Slow down. Rest. So, why am I single?
First, I am single because I want to be. (Excuse me for being so frank, lol!) I accept my place in life right now and realize that I am in a critical, developmental stage. God is working extremely hard behind the scenes in my life to gift me the true desires of my heart. He is developing my character, using my current occupation to assist me in figuring out my passion and purpose, encouraging faith and obedience with the countless circumstances I’m faced with. Am I always comfortable or content with being single? Absolutely not! Lol! In fact, I want to go on dates more times than not, but I use my hobbies and a previous experiences as the driving forces to keep me focused. When I want to go on a date, or just a fun outing, I remind myself that I have not met “the one” and there is no need to waste my time or anyone else’s time just for a little attention. I also LOVE to dance, so I’ll just dance my Friday night away! It tends to take my mind off of things; plus, I get a workout at the same time. Other times I reflect on the fact that after I’m married or committed to one person, I will never get my single days back…that always makes me sad. It makes me think about undergrad and the fact that those four years flew by only to throw me into the real world that I desired so desperately (insert sad face here). So, I’ll relax and enjoy my single days until my time comes.
I want to be whole and lacking nothing just like my God promised me. I realize that in order to have a successful marriage, one has to bring some substance to the table, and not bondage or baggage. Furthermore, I am truly enjoying my life. I am enjoying the freedom in spending time by myself without providing an explanation. I enjoy traveling to see my girls at the last minute. I love spontaneous game nights with my little cousins. I AM ENJOYING THE SINGLE LIFE. God has gifted me with this time and I plan to bask in it until He’s worked out some areas in my life.
P.S. – Wondering why you’re still single? Ask yourself these questions: Would I want to date me? Do I have the qualities that I want to see in my mate? For instance, if you desire a man with good credit, ask yourself, “Is my credit in a good place, am I being a good steward over my finances?” Think about it and then make the changes.